not wanting to be 4

We've been talking about N's upcoming birthday for quite a while. He was very excited when the calendar turned to May and we've been counting down the days. Turning 4 is a very exciting time . . . or so I thought.

Tonight, after both boys were in bed (and I thought asleep), N came out in tears. He sobbed "I don't WANT to be 4! I need to stay 3!" I took him in my arms and held him close and asked him "Why?" More sobs. I talked about the fun things he can do when he turns 4 - like play t-ball with his brother in the fall league. He admitted that was good, but he still wanted to stay 3. Finally, he sobs "But, I can't give up my nubbies!!"

For quite a while, we've discussed how he would give up nubbies (pacifiers) when he turns 4. He has only used them for sleep since forever . . . but 4 seemed a good age. Actually, 3 seemed a good age, but I found with C that 3 was too soon. (As soon as I let him have a nubby back, he started napping again . . . a welcome afternoon rest for Mom, too.) Right around C's 4th birthday, he gave them up and has never looked back.

We mentioned it at N's 3rd birthday, but he wasn't interested. I tried again at 3 1/2, and still no interest. I really thought we were all on the same page for his 4th birthday, but I guess not.

I told him that he didn't have to give them up if he didn't want to. He literally only sucks on one for about an hour after he falls asleep. He was SO relieved that his entire body relaxed suddenly and he is okay now about turning 4.

Thank goodness -- because May 15 is going to arrive -- whether he's ready or not! I know there are plenty who would disagree with me on this one, but that's why I'm his mom.